Whether you're in a long-term relationship looking to reignite the spark, or a newer couple wanting to explore together from the start, sex toys for couples have never been more accessible, more varied, or more effective than they are right now. This guide walks you through everything you need to know — from starting the conversation, to choosing the right type of toy, to what's actually worth buying.
Why Couples Are Embracing Sex Toys
There's a persistent myth that bringing a toy into the bedroom signals something is missing. In reality, the opposite tends to be true. Sex toys for couples aren't a fix — they're an upgrade. They add novelty, encourage communication, and create shared experiences that deepen intimacy rather than distract from it.
The numbers back this up. A survey by We-Vibe found that 90% of Australians have the desire to try using a sex toy with their partner. That's not a niche interest — that's almost everyone. What holds most people back isn't desire, it's not knowing where to start.
That's exactly what this guide is for.
How to Bring It Up With Your Partner
The conversation matters as much as the toy itself. Timing and framing make all the difference.
Sex coaches consistently advise against raising the topic right before or after sex, when both partners are at their most vulnerable. A casual moment — a walk, dinner, or just a relaxed evening at home — tends to work far better.
A simple approach: start by affirming what you already enjoy together, express curiosity about exploring something new, and be clear that the goal is to add to an already good thing — not replace anything. Most partners respond well when they understand that shared exploration is the point.
If your partner needs a moment to warm up to the idea, that's completely normal. Browsing together and letting them take the lead on what appeals to them can make the process feel collaborative rather than pressured.
The Main Categories of Couples Sex Toys
1. Couples Vibrators (Wearable)
Designed to be worn during penetrative sex, wearable couples vibrators sit inside the vagina while the external arm stimulates the clitoris — delivering simultaneous sensation to both partners. They're one of the most popular categories for a reason: hands-free, designed for two, and genuinely effective.
Many models now come with app connectivity, meaning one partner can control the settings from their phone — handy whether you're side by side or across the country.
Best for: Couples who want simultaneous stimulation without interrupting the flow of sex.
2. Vibrating Cock Rings
A vibrating cock ring fits around the base of the penis, helping maintain erections while the built-in motor delivers targeted vibration to the clitoris during sex. They're one of the more accessible entry points for couples new to toys — relatively low cost, easy to use, and effective for both partners at once.
Best for: Couples wanting a simple, affordable starting point that works during penetrative sex.
3. Remote Control & App-Connected Toys
Remote-controlled toys have become a genuine category in their own right. One partner controls the toy, the other wears it — creating a dynamic that works at home, on a date night out, or even across long distances. App-connected models via Bluetooth or Wi-Fi have expanded the possibilities significantly.
Best for: Couples who enjoy power play dynamics, or those navigating long-distance relationships.
4. Couples Massagers & Wand Vibrators
A powerful wand massager isn't designed exclusively for couples, but it absolutely works as one. Used together during foreplay or partnered play, a quality wand vibrator adds intensity that's hard to replicate otherwise. It also makes a reliable solo toy, which adds long-term value.
Best for: Couples who want a versatile toy that earns its place in the drawer regardless of whether you're playing solo or together.
5. Bondage & Sensory Accessories
Light bondage — blindfolds, cuffs, restraints — is one of the most popular entry points into sensory play. Removing one sense heightens the others, builds anticipation, and requires a level of communication and trust that many couples find genuinely connecting.
You don't need a full kit to start. A quality blindfold and a pair of soft restraints is enough to explore the dynamic and see how it lands.
Best for: Couples curious about power exchange, anticipation, and heightened sensation.
6. Couples Toy Sets
If you're not sure where to start, a curated couples kit removes the guesswork. Sets typically combine a vibrator, a stroker or ring, and sometimes a lubricant or accessory — giving you a range of options to try without committing to one style.
Best for: Couples exploring for the first time who want variety without having to build a collection from scratch.
What to Look for When Buying Sex Toys for Couples
Body-Safe Materials
This is non-negotiable. Look for 100% medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel. Avoid anything labelled "jelly" or made from TPE/TPR without clear material certifications — these materials are porous and can harbour bacteria even after cleaning.
Noise Level
Particularly relevant for couples sharing walls with neighbours or living with others. Many quality toys now operate quietly enough to be genuinely discreet. Product descriptions will often note this — it's worth paying attention to.
Ease of Cleaning
Smooth, non-porous toys are the easiest to clean and the safest from a hygiene standpoint. Silicone toys can generally be wiped down with a toy cleaner or mild soap and water. Some are fully waterproof and can be rinsed thoroughly.
Rechargeable vs. Battery-Powered
Rechargeable toys are generally worth the slight premium. They tend to be more powerful, more consistent, and cheaper to run over time. USB charging has become the standard across most quality toys, which makes it convenient.
App Connectivity
If you're interested in remote play or handing over control to your partner, app-connected toys open up a lot of possibilities. The quality of the app varies between brands — it's worth checking reviews on this specifically before buying.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will using a toy make my partner feel replaced?
This is the most common concern, and it's worth addressing directly. A toy doesn't have intent, chemistry, or connection — it's a tool. The right framing going in, and a partner who feels included in the choice, makes all the difference. Many couples find that introducing a toy actually deepens their communication and connection.
What's a good first couples toy?
A vibrating cock ring or a remote-control bullet vibrator are both solid starting points. They're approachable, versatile, and relatively affordable. If you want to invest a bit more upfront, a wearable couples vibrator gives you more to explore.
Do couples toys work for same-sex couples?
Absolutely. Many toys are designed to be inclusive and body-neutral by design. Wand vibrators, remote-control toys, strap-on-compatible vibrators, and sensory accessories all work across a range of bodies and relationship configurations.
How do we choose between the different toy types?
Start with what you already enjoy and think about how a toy might enhance it. If you enjoy penetrative sex, a wearable couples vibrator or cock ring is a natural extension. If you enjoy foreplay and want to slow things down, sensory accessories or a wand massager might be a better fit. Browse together if you can — it makes the decision a shared experience before you've even opened the packaging.
Shop Couples Toys at G-Spot Australia
At G-Spot Australia, our couples toys collection is stocked with body-safe products across every style and price point — from entry-level vibrating rings to wearable app-connected vibrators.
We're Melbourne-based and ship fast across Australia, with discreet packaging as standard. Free shipping on orders over $119.
Whether you're buying your first couples toy or adding to a collection, we're here to make the process easy, judgement-free, and genuinely enjoyable.