Your Complete Guide to Shopping for Sex Toys in Australia
Welcome to the exciting world of pleasure products! Whether this is your first time exploring sex toys or you're looking to expand your collection, navigating the options can feel overwhelming. With thousands of products available across different categories, materials, and price points, how do you find what's right for you?
This comprehensive guide breaks down everything you need to know to shop confidently and find products that deliver real satisfaction.
Starting Smart: Three Essential Factors
Before diving into specific toy categories, let's cover three fundamental considerations that apply to every purchase:
Understanding Sex Toy Materials
The material your toy is made from impacts everything from how it feels against your skin to how you'll clean and store it. Here's what you need to know:
The Porosity Question
Sex toy materials fall into two main categories based on their porosity:
Non-Porous Materials (Recommended) These materials have a smooth, sealed surface that bacteria cannot penetrate. They're the gold standard for intimate products because they're easy to sanitize and won't harbor harmful microorganisms. Non-porous options include premium silicone, medical-grade metals, borosilicate glass, and hard plastics like ABS.
Porous Materials (Use with Caution) These materials have a texture similar to a sponge at the microscopic level, creating tiny spaces where bacteria can hide. Even thorough cleaning won't eliminate all microorganisms. If you choose porous toys, use them with condoms for safer play or replace them regularly. Common porous materials include jelly rubber, certain TPE/TPR plastics, and lower-grade vinyl.
Material Breakdown: What to Expect
Premium Silicone
- Texture: Ranges from pillowy soft to firm, with a luxurious skin-like feel
- Aroma: Completely odorless when properly manufactured
- Flavor: Neutral, making it ideal for oral play
- Lube compatibility: Water-based lubricants only (silicone lube degrades silicone toys)
- Benefits: Medical-grade options available, body-safe, non-porous, retains warmth beautifully, highly durable, dishwasher safe
- Considerations: Higher price point, requires careful lube selection
Borosilicate Glass
- Texture: Incredibly smooth with zero friction
- Aroma: None
- Flavor: Tasteless
- Lube compatibility: Works with all lubricant types
- Benefits: Non-porous, stunning aesthetic appeal, perfect for temperature experimentation (warm or cool it safely), virtually indestructible when handled properly, easy sterilization
- Considerations: Rigid with no flexibility, requires careful handling to avoid chips
Medical-Grade Metals (Stainless Steel, Aluminum)
- Texture: Silky smooth, cool to touch initially
- Aroma: Odorless
- Flavor: Neutral metallic
- Lube compatibility: All types
- Benefits: Non-porous, substantial weight creates unique sensations, perfect for temperature play, extremely long-lasting
- Considerations: No flexibility, check for nickel content if you have metal sensitivities, can feel cold initially
ABS Hard Plastic
- Texture: Firm and glossy, often coated for velvety finish
- Aroma: Should be odorless
- Flavor: Tasteless
- Lube compatibility: All lubricants work
- Benefits: Non-porous, affordable, often waterproof, latex-free, body-safe
- Considerations: Completely rigid, can create intense sensations that aren't suitable for everyone
TPE/TPR Thermoplastic
- Texture: Soft and stretchy with realistic feel
- Aroma: May have slight chemical scent when new
- Flavor: Minimal rubbery taste
- Lube compatibility: Water-based recommended
- Benefits: More affordable than silicone, phthalate-free formulations available, somewhat flexible
- Considerations: Slightly porous making thorough cleaning challenging, less durable over time
Jelly/Rubber Materials
- Texture: Very soft and squishy
- Aroma: Often strong rubber smell
- Flavor: Chemical taste
- Lube compatibility: All types
- Benefits: Budget-friendly, body-conforming flexibility
- Considerations: Highly porous, may contain phthalates, difficult to fully sanitize, not suitable for those with latex allergies
PVC (Polyvinyl Chloride)
- Texture: Can range from hard to soft depending on formulation
- Aroma: Plastic scent
- Flavor: Plastic-like
- Lube compatibility: All types
- Benefits: Inexpensive, reasonably durable
- Considerations: Potentially porous, may contain phthalates, can break down over time
Decoding Size and Measurements
Online shopping means you can't physically hold products before purchasing. Understanding measurements is crucial for finding the right fit.
Key Measurements Explained:
- Total Length: Full size from tip to base
- Insertable Length: Actual portion that enters the body (always less than total length)
- Diameter/Width: Straight-line measurement across the widest point
- Insertable Diameter: Maximum width of the portion entering the body
- Circumference/Girth: Distance around the widest section (multiply diameter by 3.14 for approximate circumference)
Pro Tip: Don't rely solely on product photos for scale. Always check the actual measurements in centimeters or inches. A ruler or household item can help visualize dimensions before purchasing.
The Lubricant Connection
Quality lubricant isn't optional—it's essential for comfortable, pleasurable experiences with toys. The right lube reduces friction, prevents irritation, and enhances sensation.
Water-Based Lubricants
The versatile choice that works with virtually all toy materials. Water-based formulas rinse away easily with plain water, making cleanup simple. They're perfect for vaginal play and safe for use with condoms.
Best for: Silicone toys, general use, easy cleanup Note: Not ideal for anal play or water activities as it absorbs quickly; reapplication needed
Silicone-Based Lubricants
Ultra-slippery and incredibly long-lasting, silicone lubricants create an exceptionally smooth glide that doesn't dry out. They're waterproof, making them perfect for shower or bath play and excellent for anal activities.
Best for: Anal play, extended sessions, shower/bath fun, non-silicone toys Important: Never use with silicone toys—the lube will damage the material Note: Requires soap and water for removal
Hybrid Lubricants
Combining water and silicone, hybrid formulas aim to deliver the best of both worlds—the compatibility of water-based with some of the longevity of silicone-based options.
Best for: Those wanting longer-lasting glide without pure silicone Check: Compatibility with your specific toy material
Choosing Your First (or Next) Vibrator
Vibrators remain the most popular sex toy category, and for good reason—they create sensations that fingers simply cannot replicate. The vibration intensity, patterns, and focused stimulation open up entirely new pleasure possibilities.
External vs. Internal Stimulation: Finding Your Preference
External Stimulation Options
If you enjoy focused clitoral stimulation or broad vulva massage, external vibrators are your answer.
Bullet Vibrators: These compact powerhouses deliver pinpoint precision. Their small size makes them perfect for targeting the clitoris, nipples, or other sensitive external zones. Many are discreet enough to tuck into a purse or pocket.
Ideal for: Precise clitoral stimulation, travel, first-time users, partnered play Consider: May be too intense on the highest settings for sensitive users
Wand Massagers: Featuring a large, rounded vibrating head, wands deliver broad, rumbling vibrations across the entire vulva and clitoris simultaneously. Originally marketed as body massagers, they're now celebrated for their powerful pleasure potential—and yes, they still give amazing shoulder massages too!
Ideal for: Those who enjoy broad stimulation, powerful vibrations, full-body massage with benefits Consider: Larger size makes them less portable; intensity may overwhelm beginners
Clitoral Suction Toys: Using air pulse technology rather than traditional vibration, these innovative toys create a sucking sensation around the clitoris that many describe as similar to oral sex.
Ideal for: Unique sensations, those seeking alternatives to vibration, intense clitoral stimulation Consider: Sensation is very different from vibration; may take experimentation to find ideal settings
Internal Stimulation Options
For vaginal or anal penetration combined with vibration, explore our range of insertable vibrators and dildos:
Classic Vibrators: Featuring a smooth, straight or gently curved shaft with rounded tip, classic vibrators offer straightforward internal stimulation. They're excellent for beginners because of their simple, approachable design.
Ideal for: First-time users, those who enjoy penetration, users wanting control over depth and angle Consider: Basic design may feel too simple for experienced users
Realistic Vibrators: Designed to resemble a penis with anatomical details like veins and a defined head, realistic vibrators add visual and tactile authenticity to the vibrating experience.
Ideal for: Those who find realistic appearance arousing, users who enjoy lifelike textures Consider: Some find hyper-realistic details unnecessary or unappealing
G-Spot Vibrators: Featuring a pronounced curve and bulbous tip, these vibrators target the G-spot—a sensitive area located about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal wall on the anterior side.
Ideal for: G-spot exploration, users familiar with their anatomy, those seeking intense internal orgasms Consider: Requires some anatomical knowledge to position correctly
Anal Vibrators: Specifically designed for anal play with a flared base or handle that prevents the toy from being fully inserted (crucial safety feature).
Ideal for: Anal stimulation, prostate massage Critical: Must have flared base—never use a toy anally without this safety feature
Dual Stimulation: The Best of Both Worlds
Rabbit Vibrators: The iconic dual-stimulation toy features an insertable shaft for internal pleasure and an external arm (traditionally shaped like rabbit ears) that simultaneously stimulates the clitoris.
Ideal for: Users wanting simultaneous internal and external stimulation, blended orgasms Consider: Anatomy varies—the external arm may not align perfectly with your clitoris
Pleasure for Couples: Toys That Bring You Together
Sex toys aren't just for solo play. The right couple's toy can introduce fresh sensations, help both partners reach climax, and strengthen intimacy through shared exploration.
Popular Couple's Toy Categories
Wearable Couples Vibrators
These ingenious U-shaped vibrators are designed for the female partner to wear during penetrative sex. One end inserts vaginally while the other rests against the clitoris. Both partners feel the vibrations—she gets dual stimulation while he experiences buzzing sensations during thrusting.
Benefits: Hands-free pleasure, simultaneous stimulation for both partners, encourages closeness Tips: May require position adjustments; some couples prefer slower, grinding movements rather than vigorous thrusting
Vibrating Rings
Worn around the penis (or a dildo), vibrating cock rings provide clitoral stimulation to the female partner during intercourse while potentially helping the male partner maintain firmer erections through gentle constriction.
Benefits: Affordable entry point, enhances partnered sex, simple to use Tips: Start with stretchy, adjustable rings; ensure it's not too tight
Remote Control Vibrators
Your partner controls the toy's intensity and patterns from across the room—or across town via app-connected models. The anticipation and element of surprise can be incredibly arousing.
Benefits: Power exchange dynamics, public play possibilities (use discretion), long-distance intimacy Tips: Discuss boundaries beforehand; test at home before adventurous public use
Strokers and Masturbators for Couples
Many couples enjoy incorporating male masturbation toys during foreplay or as a warm-up. Watching your partner use a stroker, or using it on them, can be highly erotic.
Benefits: Takes pressure off one partner, visual stimulation, different textures and sensations Tips: Choose transparent models for better viewing; incorporate lots of eye contact
Exploring Power Dynamics: BDSM for Beginners
BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism) encompasses a wide spectrum of activities centered around power exchange, sensation play, and controlled environments. While it might seem intimidating, starting with beginner-friendly accessories can open doors to thrilling new experiences.
The Golden Rules of BDSM
Before acquiring any BDSM gear:
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Consent is Mandatory: Both partners must enthusiastically agree to every activity. Consent can be withdrawn at any time.
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Establish Safe Words: Choose a word that clearly means "stop everything immediately." Traffic light systems work well: "Green" (continue), "Yellow" (slow down/check in), "Red" (stop now).
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Discuss Boundaries: Before play begins, explicitly discuss what's on the table and what's off-limits.
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Start Slow: Begin with lighter sensations and less restrictive bondage. You can always intensify later.
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Aftercare Matters: Plan for emotional and physical care after intense scenes—cuddling, conversation, snacks, warmth.
Dominant, Submissive, or Switch?
Most people in BDSM identify as:
- Dominant (Dom/Domme): The controlling partner who directs the scene
- Submissive (Sub): The partner who relinquishes control and follows direction
- Switch: Comfortable in either role depending on mood and partner
You don't need to choose immediately—experimentation helps you discover your preferences.
Beginner-Friendly BDSM Accessories
Restraints
Starting with soft, comfortable restraints removes the intimidation factor:
- Velcro Cuffs: Easy on/off, adjustable, comfortable for extended wear
- Under-Bed Restraint Systems: Straps that secure under your mattress with attachment points for wrists and ankles
- Silk or Satin Ties: Gentle on skin, aesthetically beautiful, less intimidating than leather
Safety Tip: Never tie knots that can't be quickly released. Keep safety scissors nearby.
Sensory Play
Blindfolds: Removing sight heightens other senses. Touch, sound, and sensation become more intense when you can't see what's coming next.
Feather Ticklers: Soft, teasing sensation that creates anticipation and arousal without pain.
Ice Cubes or Warming Massage Candles: Temperature play introduces new sensations—alternate between warm and cool for heightened sensitivity.
Impact Play Tools
Paddles: Flat surface creates a satisfying thud. Start with softer materials like silicone or leather.
Floggers: Multiple tails create a different sensation pattern than paddles—can range from gentle to intense.
Crops: More precise than paddles or floggers, requiring better control.
Start Light: Always test implements on yourself first. Begin with gentle touches, gradually building intensity based on your partner's response and feedback.
Nipple Stimulation
Nipple Clamps: Create arousal through pressure and restriction. Adjustable clamps allow you to control intensity. The sensation when removing them can be extremely intense.
Beginner Tip: Start with clamps that have rubber tips and easy adjustment mechanisms.
Aftercare: The Crucial Final Step
BDSM scenes—even relatively mild ones—can create an emotional and physical intensity that requires a comedown period. Aftercare helps both partners transition back to everyday headspace.
Aftercare might include:
- Physical comfort: warm blankets, cuddling, gentle stroking
- Hydration and light snacks
- Verbal reassurance and affirmation
- Quiet time together watching something comforting
- Discussing what worked well and what to adjust next time
Plan your aftercare strategy before play begins, not after someone is feeling vulnerable.
Six Essential Tips for Maximizing Your Toy Experience
1. Cleanliness is Non-Negotiable
Wash toys before first use and immediately after each session following manufacturer instructions. Most toys clean easily with warm water and mild, unscented soap. Some materials can be boiled or run through the dishwasher (top rack only).
2. Follow Usage Guidelines
Read the instruction manual completely before first use. Pay attention to:
- Waterproof vs. water-resistant vs. not water-safe
- Charging instructions and battery care
- Storage recommendations
- Maximum usage time
3. Take Your Time
Rushing leads to discomfort. Warm up manually before introducing toys. Use generous lubricant. If using toys with a partner, maintain communication—they should never feel pressured or experience pain.
Never use toys on inflamed, irritated, or broken skin.
4. Get Creative with Combinations
Once comfortable with individual toys, experiment with combinations:
- External vibrator + internal dildo
- Vibrating ring + manual clitoral stimulation
- Butt plug + vaginal penetration
- Nipple clamps + vibrator
5. Respect Water Resistance Ratings
Not all toys labeled "waterproof" can be fully submerged. Check specifications:
- Splashproof: Can handle splashes, not submersion
- Water-resistant: Brief submersion okay
- Waterproof/Submersible: Safe for bath and shower use
6. Replace When Necessary
Inspect toys regularly for:
- Cracks, chips, or sharp edges (glass, hard plastic)
- Tears or splits (silicone, TPE)
- Discoloration or sticky texture
- Persistent odors after cleaning
- Decreased motor performance
Replace toys showing any of these signs.
Making Your Choice: Where to Start
Feeling overwhelmed? Here's a simple decision framework:
If you're brand new to sex toys: Start with a small bullet vibrator or classic vibrator. Choose body-safe silicone in a size that doesn't intimidate you.
If you're shopping for couples: Consider a vibrating ring or small couples' vibrator. Start with something less intimidating and build from there.
If you know you enjoy vibration: Upgrade to a wand massager or rabbit vibrator for more powerful, versatile stimulation.
If you're curious about BDSM: Begin with a blindfold and soft restraints. Add one or two items at a time rather than purchasing a complete set immediately.
If you're ready to invest: Choose premium silicone, glass, or metal toys from reputable manufacturers. Quality materials last longer and provide better experiences.
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The sex toy market offers incredible variety, which means there's something perfect for everyone—including you. Armed with knowledge about materials, sizing, and product categories, you're ready to shop confidently.
Remember: there's no "right" or "wrong" way to experience pleasure. What matters is finding products that work for your unique body, preferences, and relationship dynamics.
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